Where to Meet Your Husband - Ten Easy Steps. (If Only!)

Your future husband could literally be ANYWHERE!

I so wish I could give us a ten step plan that would guarantee a husband in 30 days or less. We’ve all been around the block enough to know that no plan exists, nor could it exist. Every love story is unique (thankfully!).

That old saying, “The rules are: there are no rules,” has never been more true in matters of falling in love. Sure, there are guidelines. Helpful behaviour and mindsets. But no formulas.

It’s pretty funny to me, though, that when people find their significant others, they then tout their stories as THE way to find the one you’re looking for.

I know someone who met her husband at a pub, so now she swears the best way to meet someone is by going out as much as possible (preferably to pubs) et voilà, Husbandville. (I met two of my boyfriends this way, but they weren’t long term loves so . . . Yeah.)

On the flipside, another friend of mine met her husband at home. He was one of her housemates who one day saw her as someone more than just a pal to share the chores and cooking duties. (Friends like to tease them about living together before marriage, but in actual fact, they lived together before dating as one of them moved out so they could date.) But, yes, she began telling all of her single friends that if they just moved in to mixed houseshares, they would automatically meet their future husbands. (I’ve lived with guys who were so NOT housetrained that they’re lucky to be alive, much less be the love of my life.)

Then, there are those who met their future life-sharers through online dating. And wouldn’t you know it, now they’re urging you to sign up for your free account, “just to see what’s out there.” Because nowadays it really is the only way to meet someone. (Yeah, I have plenty of my own Internet dating horror stories making hilarious reading for my blogging audience, but not resulting in a forever love connection.)

The most ideal place we’re told to meet someone is at church. You probably know a lot of people who met each other at church and it makes tons of sense, right? You’re both hopefully on the same page spiritually and wouldn’t have to have the potentially messy, “your church or mine?” negotiation. You might even have the same friend group, which makes life integration seamless. (Alas, I also met two boyfriends at church and learned that sadly, if it ends, “your church or mine?” can turn into “your friends or mine?” too.)

Seriously though, you can meet your man anywhere. On the bus. In line at the movies. In an airport (I dated someone for a couple of months that I met at LAX in the American Airlines check-in line. It’s important to note that when we met, it was also 5:30am and I had no make-up on! Anything’s possible, people.).

Anyway, back to the list . . . At church. At home. Online. At a pub. In a hospital. At work. At the grocery store. On a hike. Walking the dog. In a class. At the bank. On a fishing trip. At the laundromat (his whites mixed with your reds? Awww, pink for everyone!).  At the beach. Delivering your mail. Delivering his mail.  Reading his mail. Oops!

On a train. At midnight. In Paris. Sigh . . .

As many places as there are on the planet, that’s the infinite amount of locales that God could choose as the introductory setting of your love story. You can meet him absolutely anywhere!

Now, how exciting is that!?

And now even MORE exciting: Are you a single woman who longs to be married to a good man, but feel like the clock is ticking and Mr. Right is nowhere in sight? Love is Out There: True Stories of Hope for Single Women Over 30 is now available on Amazon! If you've given in to disappointment, anger or doubt, it's time to believe again. Love is out there! To get your copy of this inspirational book, CLICK HERE.

Updates from the Laptop

The first deadline for story contributors was this weekend.

The updates: Now while about 30 women signed up to be contributors, only 10 actually sent stories in (with 2 more asking for extensions, so I'm still waiting for those). 1/3 probably isn't 1/2 bad when you think about it (Dig those fractions!).

How did they find me? Mostly on Facebook. I also approached a couple of people after seeing their stories featured somewhere online. Word of mouth  - as in, a friend of a friend of friend - was helpful. Vonda Skelton was kind enough to post my project on her blog, as well, so a few signed up from her site.

Where are they from? I have a gorgeous international sampling from North America, the UK, New Zealand, Asia and Africa!

And the stories - oh, the stories! Each one is really beautiful and unique. So touching. And I'm humbled that these women took the time to share their experiences of finding love and marrying later in life with me, and consequently, with you all.

 

I would really, REALLY appreciate your prayers as I begin the process of editing and organizing and weaving and writing.
 

It's going to be fun!



She Prayed For Her Future Husband and . . .

How excited am I about the momentum this book project has?! Very excited, indeed!

There are about a dozen women so far who have signed up here on the site as prospective contributors, as well as about another eight more who have expressed interest. I'm completely blown away by all the fabulous ladies that God has brought across my path who want to be a part of this book - international ministry leaders, homemakers, farmers' wives and writers - from America to Malaysia to New Zealand to the UK to South Africa!

Speaking of, I just received the first story contribution from a lady in South Africa who found me through a friend of a friend (Thank you to my friends who've shared this on your Facebook pages!). Her story was such a beautiful illustration of God's faithfulness to a woman's heart cry, answering her down to the tiniest request. I smiled throughout reading it (and I think I even had tears!)

She prayed for her future husband for years, never knowing who he might be, never dreaming that he would be someone she'd already met almost 30 years prior as a young teenager. And God answered her prayers so specifically.

I've also been praying for my future husband for a while now (off and on) - sometimes it's as simple as asking God to keep him safe and healthy wherever he is, right at that moment, and sometimes I feel prompted in my heart to pray for specific things for him. I'm definitely inspired to keep it up after reading a story that shows in tangible ways how that bears fruit.

So you single friends, if you don't already regularly pray for your future spouses, it would be a great habit to get into - and what a gift to them!

Wow - I cannot WAIT to get this book written and into the hands of my girlfriends and not-yet-girlfriends who need a hope infusion in this area.

My prayer has been that God brings the exact right women with the exact right stories and I believe He is totally answering that prayer.

SPECIAL UPDATE! Love is Out There: True Stories of Hope for Single Women Over 30 is now available on Amazon! If you've given in to disappointment, anger or doubt, it's time to believe again. Love is out there! To get your copy of this inspirational book, CLICK HERE.